Some Questions Christians Do Not Often Answer (But We Should)

Christianity is filled with beautiful truths—grace, mercy, redemption—but let’s be honest: not everything is crystal clear.

And if you’ve ever been curious or even skeptical about faith, you’ve probably had some real, hard questions. In my own life, I have answered many of these questions.

Truth is, there are many questions Christians do not often answer  in public spaces or even within church walls. Some feel too sensitive. Some feel too personal. Others? Just downright uncomfortable.

But avoiding tough topics helps no one—not believers, and certainly not those trying to understand what it means to follow Jesus.

So, I want to go there. I want to address the questions Christians do not often answer  and give you honest responses—straight from my own walk and the Scriptures.

1. Why are Christians sometimes judgmental or hypocritical?

This is one of the most popular questions Christians do not often answer  because, well, it hits too close to home. I’ve been guilty of this myself. There were times when I held people to standards I wasn’t even living up to. That’s not Christ-like; that’s human.

Christianity never claims we’re perfect.

It claims we’re forgiven.

But the problem comes when Christians forget that, and instead of pointing people to Jesus, we become gatekeepers of morality. Jesus didn’t do that. He dined with sinners, talked to women caught in adultery, and touched lepers. We’re supposed to imitate Him, not act like we’re above anyone.

Still, church hurt is real. And for those who’ve been wounded by judgmental Christians, I want to say: that was never God’s intention. He hates hypocrisy more than you do (Matthew 23). This is one of those hard questions Christians do not often answer  honestly, but it needs to be discussed.

2. Why are there so many denominations? Doesn’t that seem divisive?

Yes, it does seem confusing. I’ve struggled with that myself as a Christian with more than thirty years in Christianity.

This is one of those questions Christians do not often answer because many of us don’t even know how to explain it!

In theory, most all Christians believe in the core truths:

Jesus is the Son of God, salvation is by grace, the Bible is God’s Word. But people interpret non-essentials differently—things like baptism, worship style, or leadership structures.

My cursory research suggests the different denominations usually stem from historical or doctrinal disagreements.

You know the deal. One man gets mad at another and then starts a church in a strip mall. Same has happened in denominations.

Also, social justice has been a historically challenging issue for many “Christians.”

The Black White Thing in Christianity

The Assemblies of God, founded in 1914, emerged out of the early, multiethnic Pentecostal movement. Yet by 1939, the denomination formally prohibited the ordination of Black ministers, allowing them only local preaching licenses.

Black Pentecostals seeking full ordination were directed to Church of God in Christ (COGIC) or other Black-led denominations (the archives near Emmaus, Wikipedia).

Though reversed in 1962, this policy demonstrates how AG leaders, worried about Southern congregations, upheld segregation in their leadership and structures (ifphc.org).

Why COGIC Was Founded: A Response to Racial Exclusion

The Formation of African American Methodist Denominations

Along the same lines, when African American members faced continued prejudice and restricted leadership opportunities within the Methodist Episcopal Church, they withdrew and formed the African Methodist Episcopal (AME) Church in 1816. Led by a man named Richard Allen, they established an independent denomination where Black worshipers could lead and minister freely (Wikipedia).

Similarly, the Christian Methodist Episcopal (CME) Church, founded in 1870 by formerly enslaved Methodists in Tennessee, was created so Black congregants could ordain their own bishops and govern churches without white oversight (Wikipedia).

As I Stated…

These histories show how systemic racism impacted even church denominations—forcing Black Christians to build their own institutions when they were refused equal leadership and ordination in others.

The Church of God in Christ, AME, and CME were all founded in response to exclusion, not theological disagreement. They offered dignity, authority, and spiritual leadership to African Americans during deeply unjust times.

So that is why we are divided – because of humans and their “human” issues.

But ideally, churches and demonizations should not divide us. I believe God allows diversity in the Church so more people can feel at home in a worship environment that suits their personality.

That said, when those differences turn into hostility or spiritual pride, we’ve missed the point. Trust me, many of us have.

3. Why do bad things happen to good people—even faithful Christians?

I get it. I grapple with this one, too.

This is one of the oldest questions Christians do not often answer very well, especially when someone is grieving.

As someone who has endured painful loss and trauma, I’ll be real—sometimes, there’s no answer that satisfies the soul.

Not in the moment. Heck, not ever.

 For we know in part and prophesy in part;

1 Corinthians 12: 9 – New American Standard Bible

But I’ll tell you what I’ve learned living this life for over fifteen years.

Faith in Christ doesn’t mean immunity from pain.

It means you have an anchor through it.

The Bible never promises a life without suffering.

In fact, Jesus says we will have trouble (John 16:33). The difference is, we don’t suffer without purpose or hope. He walks with us in it.

That may not be enough for some people—and I understand that.

Faith is not for the weak.

It is easier to walk and live by what one sees.

But the God I’ve come to know redeems pain.

I’ve seen Him use suffering to soften hearts, open doors, and shape lives. We may not like it, but it’s real.

You’re reading the feeble words of a woman who knows that all too well.

4. Why is sex outside of marriage considered wrong, even when both people love each other?

This is one of those questions Christians do not often answer  because it’s personal, convicting, and controversial.

But we have to talk about it because people are living this tension every day.

The Bible’s teaching on sex is clear—it’s meant for marriage.

Not because God’s trying to ruin our fun, but because He designed sex with purpose, protection, and intimacy in mind.

Outside of that covenant, the emotional, spiritual, and even physical consequences get real.

Ask me how I know!

Now, I’ve messed up here too. It is in my book, Waiting Without Whining, and a little in this blog post.

I’m not preaching from a high horse.

Trust me. I’d fall from it with my past mistakes!

At the same time, I’m telling you from experience: doing it God’s way brings peace.

The world pushes instant gratification.

God calls us to delayed obedience for long-term wholeness. It’s hard. It’s countercultural. But it’s holy.

5. Why do Christians believe Jesus is the only way to God? Isn’t that arrogant?

This is one of the questions Christians do not often answer  directly because it’s often misunderstood. But I think we need to say it with humility and clarity.

Christians believe Jesus is the only way because He said He is. John 14:6 is plain: “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”

That’s either true or it’s not. We don’t believe it because we think we’re better. We believe it because we trust His words.

It’s not about arrogance. It’s about truth.

We’re not saying people from other faiths aren’t valuable or moral.

We’re saying salvation isn’t based on goodness, it’s based 100% on grace.

Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.

John 14:6 New International Version

Jesus is the only true Source that freely gives grace to everyone, but not everyone accepts it.

6. Why does God seem silent when I need Him most?

This is such a real one.

Among the questions Christians do not often answer  with vulnerability, this ranks high. Because we all have those moments—knees to the floor, tears in our eyes, and still no word from Heaven.

I’ve had those seasons. I’m in one of those seasons now.

I’ve felt abandoned.

But faith isn’t always about feeling.

Sometimes, it’s about remembering who God is when everything goes quiet. Just because God is silent doesn’t mean He is absent. Sometimes He’s working behind the scenes. Other times, He’s teaching us to trust.

I know that sounds churchy, but it’s been true in my life.

Looking back, I see how silence shaped my character more than answers ever did.

One of the questions Christians do not often answer  because we’re afraid of looking weak is, “What do you do when God doesn’t speak?”

My answer? Wait.

Trust. And keep talking to Him anyway.

7. How can Christians believe in a God they cannot see?

I do not see the wind, but I know it’s there.

I can’t see gravity, but I know it is far more powerful that me.

Christians believe in a God we cannot see in the natural becaue we can see Him in the spiritual.

He is closer than our next breath. He’s the vibration in our spirit.s

God is in us, around us, and through us.

The Bible says that creation tells us He is here. But, my source is so much more personal. It’s His presence in the Holy Spirit. It’s the sense of no longer feeling alone in my deepest, darkest times.

It’s the elimination of the statement, “There has to be more to life than this.”

I don’t see Him physically, but His presence reverberates in a way I couldn’t explain to an unbeliever.

If you are a Christian, how can you believe in God when you don’t see Him? Share in a comment below.

8. Why do Christians get depressed or anxious if they have God?

As I write this, I am crawling out of the deepest state of grief and depression of my life.

But my faith is resolute.

Still, this is another one of those questions Christians do not often answer very well.

I used to believe that if I just prayed more or trusted more, my anxiety would disappear. But mental health is real. And Christians are human.

The brain is an organ.

If it’s unbalanced, just like a heart or pancreas, it needs care.

God can heal supernaturally, but He also uses doctors, counselors, and medicine.

Faith and therapy aren’t enemies—they’re allies. I’m in therapy this moment, and I am healing. I am rewiring my brain from trauma.

I’ve known deeply spiritual women who battle depression.

That doesn’t mean they lack faith.

It means they’re living in a broken world and doing the best they can to cling to hope.

We need to stop shaming Christians who struggle and start supporting them.

Drop a comment or heart emoji if you agree. If you don’t, you likely need therapy more than I do.

9. Do Christians doubt their faith too?

Absolutely. This is one of the most important questions

Christians do not often answer with enough transparency.

I’m so over the fake form of Christianity that is always pretending to be on top of the world all of the time.

Yes, I’ve doubted.

Sure, I’ve wondered if God is real, if the Bible is true, if this whole thing makes sense.

But doubt doesn’t disqualify my faith—it deepens it.

Faith is a muscle, and you have to use it for it to grow.

In fact, some of the strongest believers I know have wrestled with doubt.

It’s not the presence of doubt that’s dangerous—it’s what you do with it.

Do you bury it? Or do you dig into it and let God meet you there?

Thomas doubted.

Peter denied.

Even John the Baptist asked, “Are you the one, or should we expect someone else?” (Matthew 11:3 – look it up).

God is not offended by your questions. He can handle them.

In fact, I think He invites them.

I would not want to serve a God who forced me to part my critical thinking.

I’m so grateful for a God that says:

“Then he said to Thomas, “Put your finger here; see my hands. Reach out your hand and put it into my side…” John 20:27

10. Why do Christians still sin if they’re supposed to be new in Christ?

This final one might be the most relatable of all the questions Christians do not often answer openly.

We still sin because we’re still in process.

Becoming a Christian doesn’t erase your temptations. It gives you the power to fight them!

The Holy Spirit transforms us, but that change is progressive.

Being transformed into the image of Christ is a process—one that I often mess up myself!

Some battles end fast.

Others take a lifetime.

But the mark of a believer isn’t perfection—it’s repentance.

When we fall, we don’t run away. We run back to grace.

11. Do All Christians Agree Politically?

Heck, naw! I can’t understand how some people can vote for the foolishness in the world. I believe in God. I believe in a loving, kind Jesus.

That’s all I’m going to say about that subject, Forrest.

Well, that’s my take.

If you’ve ever wondered about any of these questions Christians do not often answer, I hope this post gave you some clarity.

I’m not perfect.

I don’t know everything.

But I do know that Jesus is worth following—even when the path is messy, the answers are slow, and the questions linger.

We’re not called to blind, robotic, “dummy” belief.

We’re called to informed, living faith.

And faith grows best when it’s honest.

So let’s keep asking. Let’s keep seeking.

And let’s keep walking this thing out together.

Three Key Takeaways for Questions Christians Don’t Often Answer”

1. Real questions deserve real answers. Christians often avoid difficult or uncomfortable questions about sexuality, church hypocrisy, and faith struggles—but honest dialogue is vital for spiritual growth and connection.
   
2. Christianity is not about perfection. The beauty of the faith lies in grace, forgiveness, and walking with Christ through real-life struggles—not pretending to have it all together.
   
3. It’s okay to wrestle with doubt. God is not intimidated by our questions. In fact, asking hard things can draw us closer to Him and deepen our understanding of what it means to truly follow Christ.

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