Is Christianity not cool these days? Let’s talk bout why Christianity is unpopular. I’m curious to see what you think. Ok. As you know, when some people hear the word “Christian,” they mentally erect red flags, and an alarm like the minion alarm sounds goes off in their brains. Next comes an almost impenetrable emotional wall protecting them from all things “Christian.”
Christian Woman, you tell them you’re a Christian nowadays, and they look away as though some imaginary person is calling their name from the other side of the room, or they stay in place but begin wondering how quickly they can get away from you.
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As you ponder why Christianity is unpopular, you have to ask if it has always been this bad. In my humble summation, the world seems even more ant-Christian than ever.
It is happening in popular songs, television shows, and more. They try to minimize our Christian existence – make it silly or impotent. Christians are being portrayed as weird social pariahs in popular media.
To be clear, I fully understand we are not meant to belong in this world. That’s in the Bible. We are merely passing through.
However, what is happening is very intentional and directed toward making us unpalatable, judgemental, and associated with a specific political group.
An article on NPR (National Public Radio) says we are in “steep decline.” Which makes it even more important we multiply ourselves by reaching others with Christ. You can read the article here.
Why it Matters and Why Christianity is Unpopular
Spreading God’s Word is important because of our faith. It is how we follow Jesus’ command to spread the Gospel – His love, redemption, and salvation – to everyone. Evangelism is a way to share our faith and offer hope and guidance to those looking for meaning in this meaningless life. As Christians, we fulfill God’s will and bring more people into a relationship with Him when we can share our faith. I personally feel the enemy is intentionally using media to strip us of the power to do so. But the joke is on him. No weapon formed against us will prosper!
Now, I want to share some of my reasonings about why Christianity is unpopular.
Why Christianity is unpopular #1: We Christians act cuckoo.
Sorry to be so blunt…no, I’m not!
The truth is many people just feel uncomfortable around us Christians.
They simply don’t want to hang out with us because of the way we treat them or portray our faith.
They may associate us with hate-filled speech or, as I said, even stupid political parties. Even before all these things were as prominent as they are today, I experienced the social rejection Christianity can produce by its “stand out and be perfect” mentality. I have seen people treat others as though they were better than others because they went to church. Want to hear something funny? I didn’t mind it. Largely because of what my childhood church taught me.
The denomination was uber-conservative and socialized us to believe Christians should be “set apart” and not be around sinners AT ALL unless you were leading them to the Lord. They said we are the “light of the world” and should avoid events where people are not behaving like Christians. This means the family BBQ was off-limits if people smoked or drank liquor.
For those Christians who believe the same way, I have one question:
How the heck are we going to reach non-Christians and be light if we remain only in the “light”??? Light means little until it is exposed to darkness; then, it becomes something amazing!
Imagine you try turning a light on in a BRIGHTLY, well-lit room. It’s a foolish notion, right? A brightly lit room doesn’t need light. Just like a Christian group of people don’t need to be led to the Lord.
When everyone in the room is saved, the Kingdom-building impact is limited. It’s not leading people to the Lord. It’s discipleship, which is another story.
Nevertheless, so many Christians stay separate from sinners and act as though they are somehow better than them. That’s wrong, Christian Sister.
Yeah, I think that’s one of the main reasons Christianity is unpopular. We as Christians, act in ways that make people feel less than or beneath them.
Why Christianity is unpopular #2: We are weird.
I say this somewhat humorously because I certainly have been this way. We can make Christianity undesirable by speaking another language (and I’m not talking about speaking in tongues).
We go around speaking a foreign language or what I call “Bible-ese.”
We use our secret, coded little church words.
We twitch without warning. All this can be weird or off-putting.
Hey, I have an example. We use words like “favor”, “blessed,” “victorious”, etc. These are good words, but most people outside the church don’t have a clue what in the world we’re talking about, and that can totally “creep” them out. It can inhibit them from continuing relationships with us or getting to know us. Without this entry into their lives, we can never lead them to the Lord.
I’m not perfect, nor do I know everything about evangelism, but I do try to limit those sorts of words around non-believers. Instead of saying a word like favor, I’d say something like, “Wow! Good things just keep happening. I know God is working, Girl”. This makes more sense to an unbeliever than “I’m blessed and highly favored.”
Sure, I always want to give praise to the Lord, but not go around sounding hokey.
If people are around me long enough – with me speaking plain English – eventually, folks start asking questions or begin to ask for prayer. It happens all the time!
Even better, sometimes people just see how our lives unfold and start asking questions naturally.
If someone asks me:
“You’re always in such a good mood, what’s up with you?”.
I can say, “The Lord is so good to me! I just can’t help it. Speaking of which! Where are you spiritually?”
Humor is also how I do life; you may have another way to reach folks.
Let Him use you and your personality as a tool.
Now that we’ve discussed two reasons why Christianity is unpopular let’s talk about how I think you and I can fix it.
Our walk on this earth is mostly about introducing people to the loving, saving knowledge of Jesus Christ. That’s our primary purpose, right? To win them for Christ, we must be wise.
We must be accessible emotionally, socially, and spiritually.
Christianity enables us to live a life above our circumstances and feelings, and that’s attractive. People want to be able to do that, too.
They long for a life of peace and perspective.
You know, it is easier to spout platitudes about Jesus than to actually “live” Godly in this world. For instance, how hard is it to say to someone: “You need Jesus; He is a Savior to all”? Pretty easy to say, huh? Takes only a few seconds. You can do that without relationships or taking an interest in someone.
On the other hand, it’s significantly tougher living an authentic Christian life in peace when everyone else is freaking out.
Or to turn the other cheek when someone attacks you?
Or, praying a quick blessing over that joker that cuts you off in traffic? MUCH harder, yes?
The Point: Showing people who we are and living our lives day by day is a great way to become a conduit of God’s grace.
Show them you are just like them.
We have to understand that “come out from among them and be separate” is not the same as being part of people’s lives and fellowshipping with people who are not Christians. I think the best thing we can do is to let them see the “whole” of our lives. This means the good and the bad.
It’s okay to struggle. We all do.
I even think it’s good for the unsaved to see that we struggle in life and in culture just as they do.
However, more importantly, they also need to see us reaching, pressing, and striving to be like Christ in the struggle. In the end, I think there is value in them seeing us living a life to please God – in spite of the struggles and hard times.
I’m talking about things like:
Like loving the unlovable. *ouch*
Hugging and blessing people who treat us badly. *yuck*
Not stealing office supplies from work. *who does that?*
Want more examples? You got it!
They gotta see us being kind to our husbands – behind closed doors.
Loving the neighbor that won’t speak to you. I’ve got one of those!
One of the hardest things I ever had to do was take muffins to her after her father passed. Ugh. But God gave me the strength to do it. He even made me “want” to bless her. I told her I was praying for them. She still doesn’t speak to me, but I will keep smiling, waving, and showing Christ’s love because she needs to know He loves and cares for her, and so do I.
The image of Christianity really could use a makeover.
You and I can be part of that by living Christ’s examples instead of cuckoo (the third time I’ve used that word) spiritual snobs.
After all, Jesus was very socially accessible, I think. People flocked to Him. They invited Him to their homes. He blended in with people to the degree that He had to be pointed out when the soldiers came to get Him.
Yes, our faith needs a bit of a makeover in society. No, we shouldn’t water it down or deviate from the statutes of the Bible. But, we should show the humanity of being a Christian so people can relate to us and want to have a bit of what we have.
No doubt, we can be the “change” people need to see to inspire them to want to know Christ.