True Colors Blue is similar to Myers-Briggs’ #ENFJ #ENFP #INFJ #INFP!
Do you ever wonder why you do what you do? Sometimes I do. Of course, there are many reasons we behave the way we behave. Some factors include how we were taught or socialized, as well as who we admire (or mimic) as well as the most telling reason: our personalities. I’ve been certified in True Colors(TM) and Myers-Briggs (MBTI) for years. I’ve even been certified to train DISC, but I don’t. Anyway, True Colors is my absolute favorite way to think about personality and temperament. It’s just easier to understand and remember. You’ll discern my passion for this tool while reading about the Blue personality.
In my experience, most people can’t even remember their MBTI letters, let alone what they mean! True Colors(TM) is easy to remember and simple to associate with behaviors. I love it and have for years.
Since I’m taking GodsyGirl toward a lifestyle blog – which means I’m going to blog about EVERYTHING in my head, I want to do a series on personality and temperament. The first one I’ll do is the Blue personality or the Blue temperament. Read through this post and see if you’re a Blue. If not, go ahead and read because you’re likely married to one, raising one, related to one, or working with one. Understanding their view will help you have productive and peaceful interactions with them.
Ready? Good! Let’s Go!
The Blue temperament – ENFJ, ENFP, INFJ, INFP- is a very feeling being who reminds us the world is worth living in. They naturally bring a certain warmth to all their interactions.
When making decisions, do you tend to lead with your heart? If so, it could be an indicator that you’re a member of the Blue personality. This post is all about explaining exactly what that means.
The Orange temperament adds quick-acting flair.
If nurturing others comes as easily to you as breathing, again, you are likely a Blue personality. It’s not just the nurturing you enjoy. It’s more of cultivating people (and processes) to the point of seeing progress.
When you advise and support others, you love to see them advance or reach their goals. If someone from the Blue temperament creates a nonprofit, it’s their utopia when it starts to actually change lives and impact the community.
The Blue personality: “I want world peace. For real.”
The Blue personality wants the world to be better – I mean, they REALLY, really do. They dream of it and are sometimes even a little consumed by the ideology of making things better.
The Blue personality or MBTI’s ENFJ, ENFP, INFJ, and INFP are the most passionate advocates and dogged protesters. They will fight to the end for what they believe is right. Sound like you or someone you know?
Problem-solvers with a Purpose
If they see a problem, they work to fix it for the sheer joy of helping others.
Flexible? Oh yes!
I call these folks social chameleons because they can adapt to just about any group of people. Everyone getting along with one another makes this temperament feel at peace. They hate tension and dissension. They will “check out” of it in a heartbeat.
In the mind of this personality, even if folks are on opposing sides of an argument, they should be able to disagree respectfully.
“Respect for all people”
People with ENFJ, ENFP, INFJ, and INFP (Blue) personalities revel in being civil and diplomatic with just about everyone.
They usually choose their words extremely carefully to avoid offending others. You could hear a Blue person say something like, “Every human being deserves respect.” They mean it.
I’m intentionally using the word “respect” several times. It’s incredibly important to them to give respect and to be respected. Dignity and regard for feelings are at the very core of what this temperament values.
Being this emotionally magnanimous is innate in them. No need (for them) to work at it, research how to do it, or read books about it – it’s just who they are. For instance, have you ever met a child who is just naturally sweet, gentle, and kind? This very well might be their primary temperament.
Ride or Die Friends
I have had and still have so many friends with this personality. I think, on some level, I must have sought them out. Now that I know this research, I definitely do find them intentionally. People of the Blue temperament bring serenity and gentleness to life.
Indeed, they make amazing friends and very honest confidants who won’t hesitate to tell you ”like it is,” albeit tenderly and sympathetically – sometimes, that is.
I love how my friend, Rachelle, can let me know I’m a butthead so lovingly that it helps me change without making me feel bad about myself.
“You were on my mind.”
They also have an almost eerie way of discerning when something is not quite “right” with you. In fact, I’ve had my friend text me on my roughest days because she “knew” or “felt” something was wrong with me. Wild! I have no science to explain how these people know, but they frequently do. The research does say they are “intuitive.” So, that’s science, I suppose.
They can spot a fake a mile away!
They esteem themselves by being authentic. So, don’t try to fake them out or “play them”.
If you do, you’ll have hell to pay. Being the most emotional of temperaments, anger is on their radar just as much as hugs, smiles, and sunshine.
They don’t “want” to cause harm, but if pushed far enough, they will tell you exactly where to get off. The Wrath of the Titans is nothing compared to the wrath of the Blue temperament when angered.
A STRONG Creative Side
You can count on these guys to deliver astonishing creativity to the world. They are so creative they may often try many things at once to expel all that creative energy inside.
Communication? OMG, these people are masters at both the written and spoken word. They are known to write terrific, moving poetry.
They also may enjoy keeping a journal, painting, or even blogging.
It’s the form of expression and the “getting things out” that possibly gratifies them. Not to mention the notion of helping, motivating, or encouraging others in some way.
“I wish I didn’t care so much.”
There is a downside. People with this temperament often wish they could be “tougher” because caring hurts so often and so deeply. The Blue temperament may have a difficult time seeing the hate, hurt, and pain the evening news delivers. I’ve been told [by people with this temperament] it really affects them.
It also pains them when people mistake their kindness for weakness and try to take advantage of them. It insults them and grieves them.
They “feel” it, REALLY feel it.
This temperament is so in touch with their feelings they tend to love without abandon. Textbooks romantics, it’s not uncommon for them to give so much of themselves in a relationship that they sort of lose themselves. Does that make sense? In other words, these consummate “givers” virtually empty their hearts to the point of emotional barrenness. They give it all.
As I mentioned before, when someone hurts them, it genuinely hurts intensely. I think the aforementioned is why. They just give so much.
Caring deeply about people is an essential aspect of our human experience, which comes naturally to this temperament. It’s how God made them!
For the Blue personality it goes beyond the superficial interactions of daily life and delves into the realm of empathy, compassion, and genuine connection. They readily extend a piece of their hearts to acknowledge other people’s joys and sorrows as if they were their own. This empathy allows them to understand their perspectives and challenges better, fostering unity and solidarity in an otherwise cold, fragmented world.
Moreover, caring deeply about people transcends mere sentimentality for this personality; it leads to tangible actions that improve the lives of those they care about.
It prompts them to lend a helping hand, offer a listening ear, or provide support in times of need. They are THERE!
This caring nature drives them to celebrate other’s successes and stand by them during their trials.
Ultimately, I think this personality contributes to the betterment of society as a whole, and I’m not being dramatic. They write books that encourage. They make the movies that inspire. They foster a culture of kindness, understanding, and collective well-being that enriches our lives and those of others.
The only downside to caring this much is getting hurt.
The pains of the heart can almost seem physical to this personality. They hurt down to their very center.
Heartbreak brings a sort of emotional agony that can seep into other parts of their life. They may not want to eat, go to work, or even sleep. Not to the point of insanity (i.e., never going to work again), but they might just take a day off work to recover from a broken heart or betrayal.
“I can’t move past this.”
When you argue with this Blue personality, please choose your words wisely.
As you know, using hurtful words is like using a super sharp sword with two edges. They can really mess things up, not just in the moment but also in the long run. This is especially true for the Blue personality.
You may not always realize how much damage you’re causing when you slam them with mean words.
Those words can completely wreck the relationship, smash trust, and leave emotional scars that last a long time for this temperament.
Hurtful words with any personality can make conflicts explode, deepen divisions, and make things way more complicated than they need to be. However, with the feeling Blue temperament, you can cause extreme pain – the time they can let go, but not leave behind.
So, remember, words carry weight, and you should be careful about how we use them because they can turn situations into big, hot messes.
The Blue temperament – ENFJ ENFP INFJ INFP may forgive you, but the pangs of your words (or actions) could linger loooooong after your apology.
So tread carefully.
Tips to catch yourself before you say something you will regret:
Taking a moment to pause when feeling angry can truly make a difference when you argue with a Blue.
Because they are so emotional, they may not do the same – but you can be the one who does.
When anger arises, it’s essential to give yourself time to regroup and gather your thoughts and emotions. Step away if you can.
This will sound corny, but then take a deep breath and allow your body to relax. Block out the words coming to you.
This pause lets you step back from the immediate intensity of anger, allowing you to reflect on what you want to convey and why.
We can make more mindful choices by considering the potential impact of our words and actions, both for ourselves and the person we’re speaking to. That is what I think, anyway.
Next, ask yourself if the message you want to express aligns with your long-term goals for the relationship. Also, remind yourself how sensitive the Blue person is. Remember what I told you about how intently they feel pain? Ponder: “Is it worth it?”
This brief moment of reflection allows us to choose a more compassionate and understanding approach to expressing our feelings, ultimately leading to more productive conversations and healthier resolutions to conflicts.
Now, a few tips for the Blue person in conflict
In a fight, you’re bound to take things way too personally. Remember, people get angry and say things they do not mean. You have likely heard, at one point in your life, that you need to get a thicker skin.
Frankly, I resent people telling you this.
I don’t think it’s not that your skin is thin; it’s just that you have a higher emotional quotient than other people. Your emotional intellect is elevated, and that’s not a bad thing.
However, I’ve got some tips for you two in the middle of the conflict.
I speak from experience.
Not taking things personally is a discipline that can lead to greater emotional resilience and healthier interpersonal relationships. It is a discipline you can learn. It just takes time to cultivate.
First, you really must recognize that people’s words and actions often reflect their thoughts, emotions, and experiences rather than a judgment of your worth or character.
Remember that everyone has their own unique perspectives and biases, which can color their perceptions and reactions.
Additionally, consider the context in which the comment or action was made.
Sometimes, people may be under stress or facing their own issues, leading them to react in ways that have little to do with you.
By taking a step back, cultivating empathy, and focusing on your own self-worth, you can create a mental shield against taking things personally and maintain a more balanced and resilient emotional state.
Don’t get me wrong here. If you’re wrong, you’re wrong. Take responsibility for that when you need to.
Conflict is so complicated. People say things they don’t really mean. You say things you don’t really mean to.
So don’t hold on to the pain or hurt that results from conflict. Emotions are powerful and can make even a puppy dog act like a roaring lion. Give them a little slack, move on, and forgive. It’ll help you keep your own piece, too.
Don’t relive what happened or what was said. Let it go.
Let’s end on a positive note!
Check out these other core values for the Blue temperament – ENFJ ENFP INFJ INFP and see if they fit:
Individuals with the Blue personality often experience the world intensely and are highly aware of their own emotions and those of others.
Let me leave you with some suggestions that may help you as a person with a blue personality. Interact with those with the Blue personality.
- Be self-aware: Take the time to get to know and understand your own emotions. Recognizing your triggers and understanding how they affect you will help you better manage emotional situations.
- Set those boundaries: Learn to say “no” when necessary, and don’t feel guilty about protecting your emotional well-being. Setting healthy boundaries will help you avoid feeling overwhelmed or drained.
- Seek support: Connect with others who also have a Blue personality. Sharing experiences and tips can be comforting and can help you feel understood.
- Practice relaxation techniques: Find activities that help you relax, such as prayer, meditation on God’s Word, or simply being alone when you need to be. These techniques can be effective in reducing stress and calming your mind. You care so much that your mind needs that break.
- Express your creativity: Yeees! Channel your sensitivity through creative activities like writing, painting, playing music, or dancing. Artistic expression can be a wonderful way to channel your emotions and find a sense of personal fulfillment.
Remember, having a sensitive personality is not a negative thing. Managing and harnessing the sensitive side of yourself will allow you to live a fulfilling and meaningful life.
Before I run, does this sound like you or someone you know?
- Communication (varied)
- Reaching people
- Authenticity and realness
- Building and nurturing relationships
- To “better” themselves and others too
- Searching for creative outlets
A great article for the Blue Temperament
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