I’ve said it time and time again. I’m blessed. I get so much encouragement from my church family. Sure, I have problems like any other pastor’s wife, but, I don’t even focus on those people except to love them and pray for them. Other than that, they don’t get any of my energy. For the most part, I get nothing but love, Honey. Don’t get me wrong, I know this is not every pastor’s wife’s reality and I wrote about that on my blog for pastors’ wives, Married to a Pastor.com. Let’s keep it all the way real! Still, encouraging words for a pastor’s wife can go a long way to help make the load a little easier for a woman married to a pastor.
I’ve decided to create a list of encouraging words for a pastor’s wife so you can pull from it when you need it, write in a card, text her or tell her whenever you feel the inspiration to do so.
The first of my encouraging words for pastors’ wives are:
“Are you good?… What can I do for you this week?”
Trust me, one of the most encouraging words you can hear is “what do you need and how can I help you?” I will never forget when I broke my foot, I was a little disappointed with how few offers I, personally, received for assistance. I’ll be honest, it hurt me.
Then, called Naomi and Pastor Mark Weaver from my church family.
After they did a verbal wellness check, Pastor Weaver said “What do you want for lunch today?” It was almost impossible to say “no.” However, I had just eaten a huge lunch, so I sincerely didn’t need anything. As I was explaining, his wife was saying “You got to eat, what do you want?” It was so sweet. I cried when I got off the phone. I’ll never forget that.
Also, when Beverly and Sidney Anderson sent over BBQ, I thought I’d pass out! These are just a few folks that bless me! I could name them all, but you’d be here forever.
2. “You’re doing so great!”
Talk about encouraging words for a pastor’s wife! Who doesn’t need to hear this? Let me tell you, this is one of the best compliments you can give a pastor’s wife.
Why? Because no one really understands this role in the church.
It’s not really a biblical one and no formal job description exists. Therefore, any time you hear these words, you feel empowered and even inspired to do better and do more.
3. “Thank you for your sacrifices for the congregation.”
Wow! These are among the kindest, most encouraging words for a pastor’s wife. I don’t have to tell you how much pastors’ wives sacrifice for the sake of the church family.
Note: if you have a pastor’s wife who is standoffish, grouchy, or even depressed, it may be because she needs to hear these words. To be abundantly clear, if someone is depressed for medical reasons, that’s different. I know that. Hopefully, you understand what I am intending to communicate.
As for me, I still “melt” a little every time I hear someone say these words to me.
5. “I got you something just to say ‘I love you”
My Love Language is “gifts” all day long. So, when people give me candy, lotions, or even a candle from the Dollar Tree, it blesses me so much. I’m so honored they thought of me. Other people have other Love Languages, so get to know your pastor’s wife to see how you might be able to best bless her.
In case you’re unfamiliar, here is a rundown of the 5 Love Languages to influence you a bit:
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Physical Touch (I’m such a hugger too!)
Get “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman! This was the first gift my husband ever gave me. We read it together when we were dating.
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6. “You’re not alone”
“Sister Teri, I have your back”
I never forgot this conversation. I’ll bet the person who said it doesn’t even remember it now. Her name is Janice or Aunt Janice” to my kids. She works in my husband’s church office. I hadn’t been married long at all and she said those words to me right before she ended a phone call. Another one I’ll never forget.
One of the most encouraging words for a pastor’s wife is to hear she’s got someone in her corner. Janice, and many others, have been that for me. You be that for your pastor’s wife.
7. “You’re the lighthouse for your husband and he’s the lighthouse for us.”
Sometimes, people act as though your husband belongs to the congregation. They forget you intimately know the fellow…in fact, better than they do. So, it means something when they say how important the pastor’s wife is to the pastor.
My husband always says “without Teri, there is no me.” Now, I don’t believe that for a moment, but it blesses me to hear.
Full disclosure though – I have heard people say he became much a better pastor and counselor after he got married and had children.
Again, I find that hard to believe, but it gives me some sense of purpose in the equation. It helps me know I am a blessing to my husband and have some part in helping him be a blessing to others. When someone says something like that to me, it breathes air into my spiritual lungs. Very encouraging indeed.
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Thank you so much for caring about your pastor’s wife. May God bless you for it.
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