I’ve said it time and time again. I’m blessed. That’s what prompted me to write this post about encouraging words for pastors wives. I get so much encouragement from my church family. Sure, I have problems like any other pastor’s wife, but I don’t even focus on those people except to love them and pray for them. Other than that, they don’t get any of my energy. For the most part, I get nothing but love, Honey. Don’t get me wrong, I know this is not every pastor’s wife’s reality, and I wrote about that on my blog for pastors’ wives, Married to a Pastor.com. Let’s keep it all the way real! Still, encouraging words for pastors wives can go a long way to help make the load a little easier for a woman married to a pastor.
Note: You’ll notice me intentionally leaving the apostrophe off the word “pastor’s.”
Again, I’ve decided to create a list of encouraging words for pastors wives. You can pull from it when you need it, write on a card, text her, or tell her whenever you feel the inspiration to do so.
The first of my encouraging words for pastors wives are:
“Are you good?… What can I do for you this week?”
Trust me, one of the most encouraging words you can hear is, “What do you need, and how can I help you?”
I will never forget when I broke my foot; I was a little disappointed with how few offers I personally received for assistance. I’ll be honest; it hurt me.
Then, called Naomi and Pastor Mark Weaver from my church family.
After they did a verbal wellness check, Pastor Weaver asked, “What do you want for lunch today?”
It was almost impossible to say “no.” However, I had just eaten a huge lunch, so I sincerely didn’t need anything.
As I was explaining, his wife said, “You got to eat; what do you want?” It was so sweet. I cried when I got off the phone. I’ll never forget that.
Also, when Beverly and Sidney Anderson sent over BBQ, I thought I’d pass out from joy and happiness! Can you pass out from that? I don’t know, but I was overjoyed!
Oh, I can’t forget Pam, Julia, Sonya and more! I could go on.
Anyway, these are just a few folks who have blessed me! I could name them all, but you’d be here forever.
The point is they know what is encouraging words for pastors wives, and it’s never unappreciated.
More encouraging words for pastors wives
2. “You’re doing so great!”
Talk about encouraging words for pastors wives!
Who doesn’t need to hear this?
Let me tell you, this is one of the best compliments you can give a pastor’s wife.
Everyone truly appreciates hearing that they are doing a fantastic job!
Why? Because no one really understands this role in the church.
It’s not really a biblical one, and no formal job description exists. Therefore, whenever you hear these words, you feel empowered and even inspired to do better and more.
3. “Thank you for your sacrifices for the congregation.”
Wow! These are among the kindest, most encouraging words for a pastor’s wife. I don’t have to tell you how much pastors’ wives sacrifice for the sake of the church family.
Note: if you have a pastor’s wife who is standoffish, grouchy, or even depressed, it may be because she needs to hear these words. To be abundantly clear, if someone is depressed for medical reasons, that’s different. I know that. Hopefully, you understand what I intend to communicate.
As for me, I still “melt” a little every time I hear someone say these words to me.
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Blog too: Married to a Pastor.com:
5. “I got you something just to say ‘I love you.”
My Love Language is “gifts” all day long.
If you’re unsure what I mean, let me explain. The Love Languages are ways people show and receive love, including Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. Each language meets different emotional needs.
Knowing these languages can improve communication and closeness in any relationship. It can help marriages connect more deeply by showing love in ways that matter to each other.
But I think it can be a way of encouraging pastors’ wives. If your pastor’s wife’s Love Language is Words of Affirmation, then the encouraging words for pastors’ wives that come from your heart will resonate.
But, not only so! Remember, I said mine is Receiving Gifts? Well, the exact encouraging words for pastors wives that would bless them would also bless me!
By understanding each other’s love languages, couples can build a stronger bond, promote understanding, and create a more balanced relationship that values both individual and shared moments.
So, when people give me candy, lotions, or even a candle from Dollar Tree, it blesses me so much. I’m so honored they thought of me. I couldn’t care less about the cost or the type of gift. It’s the thought for me. Other people have other Love Languages, so get to know your pastor’s wife to see how you might be able to bless her best.
In case you’re unfamiliar, here is a rundown of the 5 Love Languages to influence you a bit:
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts
Quality Time
Physical Touch (I’m such a hugger too!)
Get “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman! This was the first gift my husband ever gave me. We read it together when we were dating.
6. “You’re not alone”
“Sister Teri, I have your back.”
I never forgot this conversation. I’ll bet the person who said it doesn’t even remember it now. Her name is Janice, or Aunt Janice,” to my kids. She works in my husband’s church office. I hadn’t been married long at all, and she said those words to me right before she ended a phone call. Another one I’ll never forget.
One of the most encouraging words for a pastor’s wife is to hear she’s got someone in her corner. Janice and many others have been that for me. You be that for your pastor’s wife.
7. “You’re the lighthouse for your husband, and he’s the lighthouse for us.”
If you’re a pastor’s wife, you know people think your husband belongs to the congregation. They forget you intimately know the fellow…in fact, better than they do. So, it means something when they say how important the pastor’s wife is to the pastor.
My husband always says, “Without Teri, there is no me.” Now, I don’t believe that for a moment, but it blesses me to hear.
Full disclosure, though – I have heard people say he became a much better pastor and counselor after he got married and had children.
Again, I find that hard to believe, but it gives me some sense of purpose in the equation. It helps me know
I am a blessing to my husband and have some part in helping him be a blessing to others. When someone says something like that to me, it breathes air into my spiritual lungs. Very encouraging indeed.
I love receiving poems!
Check out these encouraging words for pastors wives in poetic form.
A Tribute to the Pastor’s Wife
In the quiet corners of the church’s embrace,
There stands a woman, full of grace.
With a heart that loves and hands that serve,
Her strength is one that doesn’t swerve.
An Anchor in the Storm
Through the whispers of night and dawning light,
She holds her family, ever tight.
When challenges rise like an untamed sea,
She is the anchor, steadfast and free.
A Beacon of Faith
With a gentle smile and spirit bright,
She reflects her faith, a guiding light.
In moments of doubt, she offers a prayer,
Her faith unwavering, beyond compare.
A Heart of Service
In each kind word and each gentle deed,
She finds her joy in others’ need.
A silent partner in the pastor’s call,
Yet her impact is felt by one and all.
Words of Encouragement
Dear pastor’s wife, in your quiet might,
Know you’re cherished, a radiant sight.
May blessings abound in all you do,
For the love you give and the strength in you.
Hey, if you’d like to see more encouraging words for a pastor’s wife, visit this blog post: “Pastor’s Wife Poem—A how-to tribute.”
Thank you so much for caring about your pastor’s wife. May God bless you for it.
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