Knowing how to humble yourself is key to walking in love.
A few girlfriends and I visited an upscale Kansas City seafood restaurant in an area called the Country Club Plaza. I wasn’t in the mood for fish, so I ordered chicken. The chicken entrée was nothing to ‘write home’ about. It was mediocre at best. I know what you’re thinking: at a restaurant famous for seafood and I ordered chicken! Lesson learned. But people do the same thing all of the time. I’ll tell you how in a minute. This post is all about how to be humble. Can’t wait to tell you what I learned about this topic.
First, in order to understand love, you’ve got to go to the source. God is love personified (I John 4:8). At the seat of His very being is love, love love. We’re nothing but the recipients of His love and grace.
He’s the perfect source to teach us how to love!
Just like I ordered chicken in a fish restaurant, we try to find out how to be humble and walk in love from the wrong sources. For chicken, I need to find a source that specializes in chicken. For love and humility, I need to find a source for that too.
It’s silly to allow Hollywood-derived love stories to shape our expectations of how our men should treat us or how our friends should interact with us. Instead, turn to the God of the universe and His ‘expert instruction manual’(the Bible) for a guide on loving and living.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Corinthians 13:4
First Corinthians chapter twelve is known as the “love chapter” because it defines explicitly how to love one another. When I want to know how to humble myself, I go to that chapter.
Yeah, when I’m struggling in my love walk, I go to the ‘love chapter’ every single time. It reminds me that love is not puffed up, but humble.
The Message Bible translates this perfectly.
For instance, the Message Bible translates first Corinthians chapter twelve verse four superbly: “love cares more for others than for self.” What a perfect adaptation of the love scripture! There’s nothing arrogant or puffed up about it at all. Want to know how to humble yourself – you too should refer to this scripture often. Maybe put it in your phone’s calendar so it will pop up randomly and remind you how to humble yourself and walk in love.
Loving others in “real life”
Love is saying you’re sorry when you know you didn’t do anything wrong. Love is listening to the same story time and time again because it blesses the storyteller. Love is saying “no problem” when it really is a huge problem. In a loving relationship, you don’t concentrate on flaws; instead, you patiently love others into wholeness.
Godly love shows His fingerprint on your life so others will want to know Him. In right balance, this type of love is the true ingredient to harmony and relational peace.
A Godly Parallel
God’s loving-kindness attracted us and continues to sustain us.
He loves past our hurts, deficiencies and pain.
If we don’t love others the way He loves us, we can’t even say we know Him because that’s who and what He is. Read I John 4:8 again.
Loving through pain, defensiveness and insecurity is not easy.
It’s the epitome of self-denial and death of selfish motives. When you love God’s way, you forget your right to be “right”. You abandon your ambitions to look “good” and you just love in spite of how you feel.
Deflate the ego, decompress your love walk, Godsy Girl and let’s love God’s way – in sincerity and humility. Amen?