Are you the same person at home as you are in church? I had to ask myself that after I saw a really funny meme. Are you one of those – “smiling, handshaking, hugged up next to your husband (when you really wanna cut him), endlessly patient with the kids while at church (when you’d shank them at home for the same behavior)” – type of Christian? Do you walk an authentic Christian walk?
Do you wear a false face? Think about it. Is that you? Is it me?
Don’t be a phony Christian Woman – sport your authentic Christian walk!
Now, I understand we can’t be totally the same person at church as we are home.
Otherwise, we would have a church full of burping (and maybe cursing) church people! Who needs that! *Hehehe *
Yeah, social decorum has it’s place.
But something is wrong when you create a pattern of fakery that mentally exhausts you and confuses the heck out of your kids and family.
Peter “tried it”; Paul caught him.
Remember [in the Bible] when Paul “went off” on Peter for being phony? Peter was chilling and eating with the Gentiles until the “church folk” came around and then he dropped them like a bad habit! I think I posted about it before. It’s one of my favorite stories. Read Galatians 2:11-14 below:
11 Now when Peter had come to Antioch, I withstood him to his face, because he was to be blamed;
12 for before certain men came from James, he would eat with the Gentiles; but when they came, he withdrew and separated himself, fearing those who were of the circumcision.
13 And the rest of the Jews also played the hypocrite with him, so that even Barnabas was carried away with their hypocrisy.
14 But when I saw that they were not straightforward about the truth of the gospel, I said to Peter before them all, “If you, being a Jew, live in the manner of Gentiles and not as the Jews, why do you compel Gentiles to live as Jews?
Hey, the church is a hospital, not a social club!
It’s the place to be real and to bring your pain and struggles in real-time. It’s where we find help, advice, and support.
If you’re hurt, its ok to cry.
If you’re mad, that’s the place to bring it before the Lord in honesty.
There’s wholeness in the house of God – if He’s there. Some churches squeeze Him out for the sake of their program. If that’s your church, you gotta pray for the leadership to get a clue. God should have a place in the program. He should BE the program.
Anyway, back to the subject. No need to be fake. Sick people will be in the hospital just like broken people will be in the church!
Other Christians need your authenticity too. Walk an authentic Christian walk!
It may inspire them to come before the Lord and be authentic as well.
For example, if you and hubby had a fight, why not pray together during the altar call? It’s a good habit and sends each of you a message. It says God is your source and in His house, you find peace (literally and figuratively).
If you are stressed out, then release it as you get lost in worship, Lady.
Don’t smile fake and pretend to be perfect all the time.
No one believes you anyway. Walk an authentic Christian walk all the time.
Every now and again, I emotionally crawl into service, then worship breathes new energy in my soul like a spiritual ventilator. Before the worship part, however, folks may ask “Are you ok? My reply is something like: “Honey, it’s been a brutal week/rough day, but I’m in the right place now.“
Real is better.
Real is normal.
Fake Christians just contaminate the Christian pool, anyway.
Look, the world already thinks we are hypocritical, why perpetuate that? Further, when your church family sees everyone else ALWAYS enjoying good, happy seasons, they think something is wrong with them when challenges arise in their own lives.
Besides, being phony is way more work than being authentic, don’t you think?
It’s actually mentally exhausting focusing on yourself so often.
When you can be 100% your self, it comes naturally.
When you have to self-edit, it requires more intention and more manufacturing. Crafting mini-presentations of yourself at every turn.
For sure, it’s much easier to be authentically YOU and trust those around to accept and love you in spite of it all.
No doubt, it can feel risky but it’s worth it.
The truth of the matter is our weakness is what makes God look best. It reinforces our reliance on Him.
It’s in our weakness that he’s the most powerful in our lives.
Girl! I saw her at the movies!!!
See, when I grew up, my family belonged to a very conservative and strict denomination.
The women didn’t wear pants (or at least around other Christians) And things such as movies were completely out of the question!
However, when I started driving, I did my own thing. I also discovered many of the people I saw on Sunday mornings we’re doing the same rebellious things I was doing as a cuckoo teen.
Anyway, they weren’t really rebellious, because God never told us we couldn’t go to a movie! I think He just wants us to exercise wisdom in terms of what we see and watch.
Girl! I would see so many church members wearing pants (NOTHING WRONG WITH PANTS!) out in the world. They would stand in the very same movie lines I was standing in as a teenager.
One particular time I remember seeing a strict lady from the church in a movie line (OOOOoooh!). She wouldn’t make eye contact with me. LOL
I think she figured as long as she didn’t see me looking at her she was invisible or something.
I’m not saying she was not walking an authentic Christian walk, but she was so hard on us about movies. I don’t know.
Seriously, as a young person, it sent me a message about being sneaky. I felt that did more harm than if she would have just said: “Hey I wanted to see this movie and I don’t feel there’s anything wrong with it.”
So much of what we do impacts others and people are watching. It sends messages. Especially for young people.
Show your weakness, share your opinions, and keep your life congruent with what you say and teach.
Still be wise as in your authentic Christian walk
I don’t think it’s wise to tell “your business” willy-nilly. That’s not what I’m saying. But, be as authentic as you can.
Your kids will learn to be real as you model genuine living for them. They can look back and say “Mama had bad days, but she handled it with prayer and worship.”
Same with other folks. They need to see how a real Christian does life and handle stressful situations.
No one is cheery all the time. Not sure why we feel we need to be.
Honestly, I think we’ll reach more folks when we embrace our “warts” as well as our “wins.” Yeah?
When my son got married, I was tempted to dance to a hymn or something. But, I listen to Christian rap in real life, so why pretend? My hubby and I dance around the house all the time. What’s wrong with that?
Honey, I let it go! I’m going to be the same me outside as I am inside.