We, Christian women, come in a beautiful tapestry of shapes and sizes, don’t we? But one thing unites us all: our unwavering commitment to being strong in our faith and embracing the characteristics of a Godly woman every day of our lives. No doubt about it, though, it’s a journey filled with challenges and triumphs, where we seek to embody grace, love, and kindness in all aspects of our lives. Whether we’re from different cultures or diverse backgrounds, our shared dedication to living out our beliefs unites us as sisters in Christ.
Warning: this started as a short Christian lifestyle blog post, but the research led me to fun and interesting places! So, it is a bit longer than I intended. 🙂
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That’s exactly what prompted me to write “The Characteristics of a Godly Woman.”
You could include many things when pondering what a Godly woman looks like, but I came up with a few that I am currently working on in myself inspired by women in the Bible.
I’ve also included attributes I’ve observed in women I’ve admired during my life. Click here to learn about some of them.
It’s amazing how the characteristics of a Godly woman are plainly outlined throughout scripture. We see them in the lives of Ruth, Esther, Mary Magdalene, Hannah, Deborah, and many others!
The characteristics of a Godly woman and the Holy Spirit
In my opinion, many of the characteristics of a Godly woman intersect with the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
The fruit of the Spirit is already a part of our lives and our spiritual composition because the Holy Spirit lives inside us. It’s just a matter of cultivating the fruit and creating good ground for it to grow.
Characteristics of a Godly woman Bible verses
Now, let’s talk about the characteristics of a Godly woman
1. The Love Characteristic
This is one of the most significant characteristics of a Godly woman.
A woman in the Bible who exhibited love.
One remarkable example of pure love and devotion can be found in the pages of the Bible — the heartfelt story of Ruth.
Picture this: Ruth’s journey embarks after the untimely passing of both her husband and sister-in-law’s spouse. In the face of unimaginable loss, Ruth’s sister Orpah decides to return to her own people. But not Ruth. Oh no, she chose a different path, one driven by an unbreakable bond with her mother-in-law, Naomi.
In a moment that has echoed through time and space, Ruth spoke these immortal words in Ruth 1:16-17 (NIV): “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God.” Talk about a declaration of love and commitment!
Ruth’s loyalty, selflessness, and commitment to Naomi showcase a profound love that goes beyond familial ties. Her story is a powerful testament to the enduring committed love and the ultimate sacrifice for others.
She models a love we should have for friends and family. It is a dogged, devoted love that says, “I’m going to help you regardless of what you say. I will not let you push me away. I’m here, and that is all there is to it.”
2. Patience – a virtue and a Godly characteristic
I’ve always said patience is one of the hardest virtues to cultivate. Our human nature wants things immediately. We want what we want when we want it.
But that’s not showing patience. It’s a demonstration of selfishness and ego. There is no such thing as love, which is interlinked with patience.
I Corinthians 13 is called the “love chapter” by many. Verse four references patience. It says:
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. “
Patience is when we put ourselves second to meet the needs of others and be a blessing to others. It’s the ability to delay our own gratification without becoming angry or hateful as a result.
Love waits. Sometimes, love waits for God. It puts His plans ahead of our own. Sarah is the perfect example of this.
Sarah – Exemplifies patience as one of the characteristics of a Godly woman.
Sarah was the wife of Abraham. Her patience shines through in her steadfastness to await the fulfillment of God’s promise to make her and Abraham the parents of a great nation.
In Genesis 18:10-15 (NIV), the Lord tells Abraham that Sarah will have a son, even though both Abraham and Sarah were well beyond the typical age of childbearing. Sarah, overhearing this conversation from her tent, initially laughs in disbelief.
Not only does she laugh, she goes and tries to make it happen herself.
I could have used Sarah as a testament of impatience, but I use her because patience is hard. We can fail at it and still receive the blessing.
For instance, a young woman desiring the love of a husband may surrender her body to a man she thinks she loves.
Another woman may settle for a job she doesn’t really like in order to get away from another job.
Patience and waiting can get messy. But, it doesn’t always prompt God to withhold blessings from us.
Yes, as time unfolds, Sarah embraces and realizes the promise with patience.
Genesis 21:1-2 (NIV) records the fulfillment of God’s promise: “Now the Lord was gracious to Sarah as he had said, and the Lord did for Sarah what he had promised. Sarah became pregnant and bore a son to Abraham in his old age, at the very time God had promised him.”
Sarah’s journey of waiting and making mistakes did not thwart God’s plan or timing.
3. Joy is another characteristic of a Godly woman.
By “joy,” I don’t mean going around smiling all the time. Honestly, I think smiling is more of a result of happiness than it is joy. Happiness is short-term, while joy is a state of being. It’s a feeling of great pleasure to know Jesus Christ.
I can honestly say I’ve never met a person or been in a relationship with someone who has joy without knowing Jesus Christ. Most of the people I know who are non-believers may be happy -or at least that’s what they portray to me- but the longer I get to know them, I realize the joy factor is low.
Joy is a fruit of the spirit. That means we don’t have to work for it; strive for it. It’s just a result of Jesus Christ Living inside of us. It expresses God’s goodness in our disposition because we know He is our source of joy and loves us forever.
Example: A joyous woman in the Bible
An example of a woman in the Bible who embodied joy is the character of Dorcas (also known as Tabitha) mentioned in the Book of Acts.
In Acts 9:36-42 (NIV), Dorcas is described as a woman “full of good works and acts of charity.” She was known for her kindness and generosity, often making clothing for the widows in her community.
Sadly, she fell ill and passed away.
The people in the community deeply mourned her death.
But then, something amazing happened! The Apostle Peter came and prayed for her. He said, “Tabitha, get up.” Miraculously, she came back to life.
The resurrection of Dorcas brings joy to the community as they witness the power of God and the restoration of a beloved woman known for her acts of love and charity.
Dorcas’s life and resurrection show how a joyful and compassionate spirit can positively affect the people around her. It can also bring a blessing.
Joy is settled assurance.
We know that he’ll never leave us. He’ll never forsake us, but He will forever be there with us.
Pastor Rick Warren, the renowned author and pastor of Saddleback Church, “says joy is the settled assurance that God is in control of all the details of my life, the quiet confidence that ultimately everything is going to be alright, and a determined choice to praise God in every situation.”
4. Kindness is the fourth of the characteristics of a Godly woman
One of the characteristics of a Godly woman must include reaching out to others and being a blessing even when people don’t return the favor.
This means you volunteer to help when you know you will not be noticed, acknowledged, or even rewarded for it. It’s just out of the kindness of your heart you help.
Kindness also means not running for the door after church is over or during the alter call.
Be kind enough to linger for a bit. Maybe you’ll make a friend or encourage someone who needs Christian encouragement. God can’t use you when you make a mad dash for the door.
Kindness is when you say hello to someone you don’t know and smile in a grocery line.
Kindness, as one of the characteristics of a Godly woman, is waving a thank you when someone lets you over in a lane in traffic.
Kindness can also be shown by allowing someone to take a parking space in a crowded parking lot.
Here are some other ideas of kindness in everyday life:
- You could pick up the paper and take it to an elderly neighbor’s door.
- Or give bottled water to the gentleman who cut your yard.
- Simply offering a hot dog to a neighbor walking by when you barbecue.
- Send flowers to a co-worker who is Having a rough day for absolutely no reason.
- Holding the door for someone coming in behind you.
- Offering a compliment…. just because.
- Babysitting for an overwhelmed young couple.
- Take cookies to the office or maybe pick up donuts.
- Bless someone with clothes that you no longer find you can fit or no longer light.
- Let the person behind you go first when you are in a long grocery store line.
- As you’re going through the drive-thru, pay for the person’s food In the car behind you.
- Drop a little change in someone’s parking meter.
- Leave a case of soda or something at your doctor’s office for the staff to enjoy.
- Go to your contacts and send a note just thinking of you to one or several of your friends.
- When someone new moves into your neighborhood, take a few cookies and welcome them to the neighborhood.
- Give a student $20 for lunch one day and the week.
- Tape a dollar to the vending machine at your job and leave a note that says: “Have a blessed day.
- On a snowy day, clean someone else’s windshield.
- When you see a grocery cart loose in a parking lot, return it to the grocery cart area.
- Share your favorite recipe on Facebook, Twitter, or somewhere.
- If you’re at a party or get-together, sit with the person sitting alone.
An model of a kind woman in the Bible.
I love the story of Rebekah in Genesis 24. When Abraham’s servant is sent to find a wife for Isaac, she demonstrates kindness in her actions.
As the servant arrives at a water well, he prays to God for a sign to identify the right woman.
Rebekah provided water for the servant and offered to water his camels—a task that wasn’t easy and required considerable effort and kindness. I can imagine how hot the temperature was in the desert, and she volunteered to be a blessing.
How sweet that was.
Genesis 24:18-20 (NIV) describes the encounter and says: “She quickly lowered her jar from her shoulder and said, ‘Drink, and I’ll water your camels too.’ So, I drank, and she watered the camels also.”
Rebekah shows kindness by welcoming the servant and his camels into her family’s home. She provides them with food and a place to stay. This important moment showcases her compassionate and kind nature, which is crucial to God’s plan.
Who knows. Your kindness can be linked to your blessing and the manifestation of God’s plan for your life.
4. Goodness and faithfulness are other characteristics of a Godly woman.
Goodness makes you want to be kind and faithful. And I feel like the only way you can cultivate goodness is to transform your thinking and identity to align with Jesus Christ.
The only way you can do that is by prayer and Bible reading. You’ve got to know what goodness looks like in order to mimic it. Consistent time reading your Bible and learning what goodness looks like will make a world of difference in helping you shape your identity as a godly woman.
It also helps to hang out with other Godly women to see how a Godly woman does life.
Years ago, I organized a trip to Branson, Missouri, for women at my church.
One young lady said, “I really look forward to it because I’ve never been around that many Christian women.” It blew my mind. So many people don’t know what it means to be Godly because they’re new Christians or young Christians. The best way to find out is to be around Christian women.
A good woman in the Bible
Abigail, a woman from the Bible, exemplifies another instance of goodness.
Abigail’s story unfolds in 1 Samuel 25.
She is marked as a woman of remarkable intelligence and beauty. She is married to a wealthy but ignorant man named Nabal.
When David, who would later become king, sends messengers seeking provisions from Nabal, he responds disrespectfully.
But Abigail is quick to act in wisdom. After hearing of the situation, she takes immediate action.
In 1 Samuel 25:18-19 (NIV), she quickly gathers an abundance of food and meets David and his men.
Abigail’s goodness is not only evident in her generosity but also in her wisdom and humility.
She recognizes David’s anointed status and seeks to prevent him from taking revenge on her foolish and ungrateful husband.
In verses 23-24 (NIV), she says, “When Abigail saw David, she quickly got off her donkey and bowed down before David with her face to the ground. She fell at his feet and said: ‘Pardon your servant, my lord, and let me speak to you; hear what your servant has to say.'”
Abigail’s goodness averts disaster and impresses David, who later marries her after Nabal’s death.
Her story shows how a woman’s wisdom, humility, and kindness can help defuse tense situations and lead to positive results.
Faithfulness speaks to that “hang in there” type of devotion; it is dependable and reliable. Being the type of person folks can depend on and trust.
This is important in women’s ministry. It is also important as one of the characteristics of a Godly woman.
Being faithful in the Bible means showing loyalty and reliability to God and others.
This involves obeying God’s commandments, trusting in His promises, and living according to His ways.
The Bible emphasizes how God is faithful to His people and expects us to be faithful in return. Faithfulness is not just about our relationship with God but also about being loyal, trustworthy, and keeping our promises to others.
It means being diligent, reliable and committed to serving others.
In every situation, being faithful means being accountable, responsible, and dedicated to following the principles in the Bible. Psalm 119:90 says, “Your faithfulness continues through all generations,” which shows that faithfulness is an important part of the biblical worldview that transcends time.
A woman in the Bible who exemplified faithfulness.
An example of a faithful woman in the Bible is Esther. The Book of Esther in the Old Testament tells the story of a Jewish orphan who becomes queen of Persia. Esther’s faithfulness is shown through her bravery and her willingness to risk her life to protect her people.
In Esther 4:14 (NIV), her cousin Mordecai encourages her with these words: “For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?”
Esther, recognizing the gravity of the situation, decides to approach the king, uninvited, to plead for the lives of her people. In Esther 4:16 (NIV), she declares, “When this is done, I will go to the king, even though it is against the law. And if I perish, I perish.” Pardon me, but Esther was straight gangsta!
Her faithfulness involves her loyalty to her people but also to her trust in God.
I believe Esther’s brave actions saved the Jewish people and demonstrated her strong faith and commitment during challenging times.
And gentleness is also a fruit of the spirit. The Holy Spirit lives inside of you, so remember that gentleness is inside of you already. It just must be cultivated.
By nature, I am a very rambunctious personality. I’m sassy, vivacious, and can be a bit of a handful. I often pray that God would give me a gentle nature. Little by little, I’m seeing him do it. I see the difference in my own personality in my own responses.
The Holy Spirit is not pushy nor bombastic. He’s living inside of all of you bearing fruit – if you will yield to HIm.
All you need to do is pray, read your examples in the Bible, and allow Him to work on you over time. When you are eager to respond in an ungentle manner, rely on and recall that scripture and remind yourself of Galatians 5:22 through 23. Hang it on a post-it note on your bathroom mirror. Schedule it in your calendar so it pops up so you can always be reminded.
My favorite woman in the Bible who represents gentleness.
Hannah in the Bible epitomized gentleness to me PERFECTLY! That and having a strong faith in God.
You may remember that in 1 Samuel, she is introduced as a woman who doesn’t have children and feels very sad about it.
Despite her pain, Hannah chooses to pray to find comfort and guidance. In 1 Samuel 1:15 (NIV), it says that she pours out her heart to the Lord, showing her gentle and humble spirit even in her own sorrow.
She could have grown bitter and returned meanness to Peninnah – who was giving her the business for being barren – but she prayed instead.
Hannah’s gentleness is further highlighted in her encounter with Eli, the high priest at the Tabernacle.
As she prays silently, her lips moving but no sound coming out, Eli initially misunderstands her distress, thinking she is drunk. It is a bummer when people jump to negative conclusions like that. But that is another story.
She gave a gentle reply.
In response, Hannah respectfully and gently explains her situation, saying, “I am a woman who is deeply troubled. I have not been drinking wine or beer; I was pouring out my soul to the Lord” (1 Samuel 1:15, NIV). This interaction reflects Hannah’s patient and gentle demeanor, even in the face of misunderstanding.
In 1 Samuel 1:18 (NIV), after Eli blesses her, it is mentioned that Hannah’s face was no longer sad. Hannah’s trust in God brings her peace and strength, leading to the remarkable birth of her son, Samuel.
This is one of my favorite stories!!!
Hannah never “clapped back,” even though she could have. So many lessons here about the characteristic of gentleness.
Ugh… this one is very, very hard for me. For years, in mentoring, I’ve told young people, “If you can’t control yourself, you’ll never be able to control anything else in your life.”
It’s easy to control so many other things and people, but very, VERY difficult to control oneself.
Self-control is vital for Christian women. It means having the discipline to control thoughts, emotions, and actions based on biblical principles.
The Bible talks about self-control as a result of the Holy Spirit’s work in our lives (Galatians 5:22-23, NIV), and it helps us develop a character that reflects Christ.
For Christian women, self-control is important for purity, integrity, and living morally upright lives. It involves resisting worldly temptations, being cautious with decisions, and practicing moderation in speech and actions.
Examples of self-control we can exercise:
Refraining from gossip, using encouraging words, and avoiding harsh or impulsive language in conversations show self-control in speech.
Managing emotions during challenging situations, avoiding unnecessary outbursts, and maintaining a calm demeanor in times of stress exhibit emotional self-control.
Choosing balanced and nutritious meals, resisting the temptation of excessive indulgence, and practicing moderation in eating habits reflect self-control in dietary choices. *ouch*
Budgeting, saving money, and avoiding unnecessary debt showcase financial self-control and responsible stewardship.
Prioritizing tasks, avoiding procrastination, and maintaining a disciplined schedule demonstrate self-control in managing time effectively.
Self-control in managing anger is exemplified by controlling reactions to provocation, seeking constructive solutions instead of reacting impulsively, and practicing patience.
Limiting screen time, avoiding harmful content, and maintaining a positive and uplifting online presence demonstrate self-control in using social media.
Consistently meeting deadlines, resisting distractions, and maintaining focus on tasks illustrate self-control in professional settings.
Abstaining from premarital sex, maintaining fidelity in marriage, and adhering to biblical principles of sexual morality exemplify self-control in the realm of relationships.
Do you see all the treads of self-control above? I think it enables us to respond to trials with patience, approach conflicts calmly and measuredly, and resist the allure of instant gratification that may lead us away from God’s path.
Additionally, self-control helps us be responsible and make choices that honor God.
The self-control re-tweet.
When I think of self-control, I think of Ruth as well as the other characteristics of a Godly woman.
I just have to focus on her again!
Ruth had great integrity and self-control. Again, after the death of her husband, Ruth chose to remain with her mother-in-law, Naomi.
She could have easily returned to her homeland for a more easy and familiar life, but she didn’t. I think her decision required significant self-control, as she could have pursued a more comfortable and “normal” path.
Ruth’s disciplined character is further evident in her commitment to providing for herself and Naomi. Ruth 2:2 (NIV) describes how Ruth went to glean in the fields to gather leftover grain, a practice allowed for the poor in Israel.
This required humility, hard work, and self-control, as she exercised patience and diligence to ensure their sustenance.
Another demonstration of Ruth’s self-control is seen in her interactions with Boaz, a relative of Naomi’s deceased husband.
Naomi tells Ruth to talk to Boaz during harvest time. It could be a tricky situation. Ruth listens to Naomi and acts with humility and respect (Ruth 3:5-6, NIV).
Ruth’s story showcases self-control in various aspects of her life — from her decision-making to her work ethic and interactions with others. Her character exemplifies the virtue of self-discipline and highlights how it contributes to personal growth, integrity, and the unfolding of God’s providential plan.
What great examples! But remember this…
As you cultivate the characteristics of a Godly woman in your life. Understand you will fall short sometimes. I know I do from time to time.
Be sure to forgive yourself when you do – and you will because you are human. It is just part of the process. It is part of your maturing into a woman of amazing Godly character!
Winston Churchill once wrote, “Success consists of going from failure to failure without the loss of enthusiasm.”
Hence, never lose hope in the change process.
Remain enthusiastic about your ability to be better and do better.
Why do you have that enthusiasm? Because you know, Jesus Christ lives inside you, and He’s working with you and through you to make you the woman you’re supposed to be.
Okay, I said a mouthful already.
Girl, this could have been an e-book! But the research was fun. I couldn’t stop!
I hope you enjoyed reading about my concepts of the characteristics of a Godly woman! I absolutely loved writing this, and I absolutely love you for reading!
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