How to handle a bully at work, a bully boss or a bully neighbor


One thing I cannot stand is a bully! The enemy loves nothing more than to huff, puff and threaten to blow your house down!

But as Christian women, we have to do our level best to keep a cool head, embrace a righteous indignation while still exhibiting the love of Christ. Trust me; I know how difficult that is. Nevertheless, Christianity is all about trusting God to fight your battles while allowing the Holy Spirit to order your steps in love.

Life’s bullies often seem bigger than we are, more skilled than we are or even smarter than we are. Other times they just have a power advantage in the workplace or [dare I say it] in ministry. They shout, tout and manipulate – all in an effort to intimidate others.

Think about Goliath in I Samuel 17. Notice in verse 8, the scripture says he “stood and shouted” at the people. Bullies rarely whisper. It wasn’t so bad that he was talking “loud and drawing a crowd” as it was what he was saying. My mom calls what he did in verses 8 and 9 “issuing woof tickets” or talking “stuff”. That’s when the people of God jumped up and took him down, right? Nope! The Bible says “on hearing the Philistine’s words, Saul and all the Israelites were dismayed and terrified.”

I can relate to being afraid. Can’t you? Fear in itself can be paralyzing, but only if you let it take root. So, acknowledge fear and do what you need to do. Jesus tells us time and time again that we don’t have to fear the bullies of the kingdom of darkness. He is our mighty Vindicator and will fight our battles and cause us to triumph. This truth caused David to inquire (likely just as loud as Goliath) “who is this uncircumcised Philistine that he should defy the armies of the living God?”

You know the rest of the story. David took his rock in hand and handled that bully! Read the scripture and see that he didn’t take the weapons handed to him; he took the tools of war that were right for him. They offered him the traditional armor of warriors. He didn’t care for them because they didn’t fit. He refused that other stuff and grabbed what he knew would work. Do you see the parallel? Man’s traditional way of handling bullies may not work for you. You have to turn to what you know is tried and true – God’s Word.

With that said, here are your spiritual weapons – “belt of truth”, the breastplate of righteousness and the gospel of peace. Don’t forget the shield of faith, the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit. Finally without prayer, you’re lost! You absolutely must pray.

So, when the enemy flexes his muscles on you, put on the full armor of God so you can stand against his stupid tricks and schemes. Don’t stand “terrified”. Stand firm and watch the salvation of your God. Instead determine in your heart to love your enemy; act justly and reflect Christ. And whatever you do, don’t buckle or become intimidated! You are God’s girl and He will deliver you from any strong enemy. He will give you the ability to love and really forgive that bully while speaking and doing what is right in the sight of God. So, take your spiritual “rocks” in your hand and get ready to rumble in the spirit!

For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies,
but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world,
against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil
spirits in the heavenly places.
Eph 6:12

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