My last article “Taking Care of ME” generated a lot of discussion from other busy moms and women that habitually neglect themselves as they care for everyone else. Guilty then and still a little guilty. I get a mediocre grade because I just haven’t done a “bang up” job yet.
I must confess, new behaviors and habits are very difficult to incorporate into a moving, living lifestyle. Especially when you factor in work, motherhood, church-hood, wife-hood, student-hood, daughter-hood, girlfriend-hood….and the list goes one.
But still that’s no excuse. We can change for the better!
As a consultant, I’m certified in an intriguing curriculum called “Increasing Human Effectiveness” (IHE). The cornerstone of the workshops are change management. I think several these principles will help us make positive changes in our personal lives. Let’s see.
The research says we are a combination of complexities. We are mental beings, spiritual beings and physical beings. The most powerful is the mental capacity or the mind. Our Heavenly Father gave us the ability to control our minds and even transform them. Here’s how it can work:
1. Our conscious mind. Your conscious mind is evaluates and associates data as it enters your brain. For example, it sees the cake and says “That’s good. You want it”. If you’re anything like me, you then eat it. Essentially, the conscious mind decides upon the course of action you should take. IHE calls it the “judge”. It decides what’s good and what’s yucky.
2. The subconscious mind. Some call this your spirit. This is the place where your personal reality is stored and it handles your activities and habits. Think of it as a massive data container. It’s unbiased and non-judgmental. It just takes in the data you feed it and and eventually you act on that information – whether you want to or not (SCARY).
It’s very important what we feed the subconscious. Think of how people tell children they are bad over and over. It ingrains in their subconscious (or spirit) and eventually they begin behave badly almost without trying.
Managing the mind to change habits.
We can control our minds by feeding our spirits truth based on God’s word. God tells us we are the righteosness in Christ Jesus and that we are not slaves to sin any longer. We must “beat” our subconscious minds into submission to God’s word. The result is peace and the formation of Godly habits.
Tips to condition your spirit for change. Understand what you say triggers your mental perceptions about yourself. That’s why memorization of scripture is so important.
Similarly, I have begun praying for the strength to change my work habits and live a healthier lifestyle. As I pray, I activate my faith by thanking God for the answers to my prayers. For instance, I say things like:
“Lord, I thank you that I manage my time well and no longer take on more work than I can handle”.
“Lord, I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made! Thank you for teaching me to eat well and get the rest I need”
I’ve just discovered Deuteronomy 4:9 and have begun praying that as well. Like this: “Lord, thank you that I remember what you have shown me and taught me. I will teach my children your wisdom as well.”
“I care for my temple the way God wants me to. Thank you for the strength to make healthy food choices and the wisdom to handle my time well.”
Even beyond praying, I have just started reminding myself that I am scaling back my consulting and beginning to take better care of myself. I’ve started saying over and over “I get the rest I need” just to get my habits to follow my words.
So, the next time I report to you, Godsy Girl, my self care grade will be improved. Likewise, I will be stronger, healthier and wiser for God’s kingdom.
If all this doesn’t work, I’ll just have to lock myself in the bathroom to get rest like my friend Sara jokingly suggested! 🙂
Other scriptures to feed your subconscious spirit: