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When you’re bored with God and Religion

Have you ever been in a Christian slump?

Your prayer time goes stale.

Your Bible seems to be lifeless and church just seems like something “to do”.

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A lot of people would never admit it, but this happens to many Christians. Earlier in my Christian walk, people would call it a “wilderness season”. What a great way to explain it. You feel like you are out in a spiritual wilderness: wandering, searching and seeking only to seemingly be alone.

I don’t know why Christians often pretend like everything is “ok” all the time. It’s a phoniness that makes the world despise us ad label us “hypocrites” and ”fakes” Or worse, it leads them to believe that once one accepts Christ, they will simply “tip toe through the tulips” until Jesus returns.

What a load of hooey!

Along the same lines, there are some self-righteous church members that will argue angrily against the very possibility that a Christian can be bored with God.

“Who are you to be bored in your Christian walk?”

“You are nothing in comparison to God, how dare you!”

Let me lay it out like this so they can understand: shut up!

If you are living Christianity the right way, you are in a love relationship with the Lord. In all relationships, there are variations. There are ups and there are downs.

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With humans it’s a hot mess because both parties are human, flawed and frail. But, in your supernatural love relationship with the Lord, there is only one frail person – you. So, there are times YOU “feel” differently about things. That’s just the honest truth.

Have you ever heard Bishop G.E. Patterson’s CD?

On it, he tells the story of a couple who had been married for years.

During the earlier years, the couple cuddled while driving as the wife would lovingly scoot across the car seat to be nearer to her love. As the years progressed, the cuddling stopped.

One day the wife raised an accusatory tone and asked: “Why is it we don’t sit close anymore in the car?”

The husband responded by saying something like “Well, the steering wheel is still here. I’m in the same spot. I wasn’t the one who moved.

The same is true for us. God didn’t move.

There are several examples in scripture of wilderness seasons. The prophet was in a wilderness season when the raven brought him food at the bequest of the Lord. Read I Kings 17.

Paul likely felt in a wilderness season when he “despaired of life” in 2 Corinthians 1:8, life got hard and he felt alone.

Hannah had a wilderness season in I Samuel as she felt she less than what she should be as a childless woman.

It’s not a sin to be down.

The blessing is though we may feel that way, we are not. We are never alone. We are never abandoned.
During those seasons, the best thing you can do is to:

1. Stay your course. Do not stop reading your Bible, praying alone with God of attending church. Sometimes to get the feelings you once had you have to do the things you once did. Don’t stop. Your season will soon end and you’ll feel your connection with the Lord again. Don’t move to the other side of the car.

2. Appeal to the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is your Helper. He is real. He understands what you feel and how your struggle. He will lead you and guide you. He’ll take care of you just like that raven that fed Elijah in his wilderness. Be patient with yourself and allow the Holy Spirit to minister to you. No need to talk through your prayer time. He knows. Just rest in His presence thinking only of the Lord. It’s during those times you will gain strength.

3. Confide in someone who is mature and loves the Lord. You need someone made of flesh to encourage you in the Lord and remind you of His promises. Be wise and allow God the show you who to share your struggles with; people can be very hurtful. Pray about who it should be, ok?

4. Worship like a madwoman. I simply don’t understand why more ministers don’t teach on the power of worship. Instead, they sit in the pulpit like the “frozen chosen” during worship. I think perhaps, they do not know the power of the worship themselves. But, worship is a key victory. When you worship, focus on the matchless Savior, your problems and even your feelings begin to minimize in light of His greatness. I don’t care if you have music or not, just begin to declare (out loud) your praises:

“God you’re amazing in your strength, wisdom and power”.

“Lord there is no one like you in heaven and earth”.

“You alone are God and besides you there is no other god”.

“I glorify your name.”

“I praise you.”

“I worship you!”

If you do not know how to worship, visit Psalms.

5. Change your inner narrative. Instead of touting that you are depressed, bored with Christianity or burned out, declare your victory. Speak in faith for how you will soon feel.
Say to yourself:
“Lord, I don’t’ feel like I’m victorious now, but I know I am because your death and life guaranteed it”.

“Father, I am thankful that I don’t have to rely on my feelings, because I walk by faith. By faith, I know I am whole, I am healed and I am filled with the Spirit.”

Note: Feelings have little place in a mature relationship. You may not “feel” like a lot of things most of the time, but you do it because you love the one you’re committed to. Ask any married person.

I hope these tips helped you. I hope you know that sometimes you may not feel like the victorious, beautiful Christian you are. That’s ok. No one is “up” all the time and if they are…they are lying.

Amen?

when God says no

When God does not seem to answer prayers

When God says “no”. What is our response?

What do we do when God doesn’t seem to answer our prayers?

Some would say we don’t have a response – when God speaks, we don’t get to have a response.

That sounds “deep” and lofty, but it’s not really true.

If we had no response option, we would be nothing more than robots. God does not want robots, He wants obedience children, right?

A while ago, I shared about my neighbor who had a Cancer diagnosis. It was a bad one. The news of it hurt to my core. I bawled and bawled. For weeks, I took her flowers to brighten her day. Each day, I watched the family come and go.

I hoped for the best.

But, in my spirit I knew that healing wasn’t how I should pray. This is a departure for me. Mostly, I pray for healing until a person’s last breath. This time was different. I felt the Holy Spirit leading me differently.

During this process, she told me she was at peace with going home to heaven. She missed her husband and wanted to be with Jesus. She said this so often, that after some time, so was I.

Well, 80 percent of me was at peace with it.  That selfish 20 percent still wanted her to stay across the street – looking out for the neighborhood kids, waving to me from her mailbox, bringing her granddaughter over to play with my son and sharing life’s struggles from time to time. I wanted to keep her close…close to me and close to those beautiful grandchildren.

God took her home.

You can imagine how difficult it was to see the estate sale, the family moving her items from the home and, now the “For Sale” sign in front of her house.

As scripture admonishes, I made my “request known” because God said I could in His word. Clearly, in His sovereignty, God moved in a better direction.  His way is always better – even if I can’t see how it is. God, in His unending, boundless wisdom is always working out for our God. Our limited minds cannot comprehend it and often our emotions are wounded by it, but He is always…right.  As the old people say “He does all things well”.

Through tears, I type these words knowing He did not answer my prayer the way I wanted Him to answer it. I guess, it’s like my child when I decline his request and he simply cannot see any reason in my decision.

Trust is such a big part of the Christian walk. Selfish people can’t trust because all they see is what they want; not the wisdom in God’s plan. Childish people don’t trust because they can’t share the power of life with an invisible God. Everyone knows babies and sharing don’t mix.

I’m growing toward maturity in my Christian walk.  This means what I want is not nearly (evenly closely) as important as God’s plan. His will trumps anything I could ever want or ask for.

Because I revere Him,  I trust His decisions. Because I love Him, I humbly surrender my hopes, plans and expectations so His will is performed. Because I am indebted to Him for all He has done, I raise my feeble hands to worship [sometimes in faith], because He’s been too faithful for me to question Him.

I’ve learned that the proper response when God doesn’t seem to answer our prayers is simply…trust. That’s what an obedient child would do. I want to be an obedient, loving child to my Father.

So, I trust God. I trust Him to heal my disappointment.  I trust that my friend is in the center of boundless joy, peace and no physical pain. The best part is that she is with Jesus, the greatest blessing of all.

Read: When “Normal” Changes

Waiting was worth it

Why should I wait to have sex?

OK this is going to be one of my “eye roll” blog  post. Anytime I blog about God’s standards of waiting for marriage, I get blasted.

Yeah, some will definitely roll their eyes at the concept of waiting to have sex.

Still others will unsubscribe from my Christian woman’s blog and that’s ok. Honestly, I’ll be unaffected by either. Christian purity is a subject we don’t discuss enough. So, I’m going to discuss it.

It begins with my struggle to remain  sexually pure as a single woman. Continue reading “Why should I wait to have sex?” »

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How not to worry…so much

Note: I intended to publish this later. But, I since spoke to a friend who may be encouraged by this, so I’m going to publish now. Excuse the typos…GodsyGirl is only human. 🙂

One of the most difficult things to do is to turn over to God those things you love most.

I’m in my early 40’s and have buried most of my immediate family. In fact, most of them died by the time i was 34. The recurrent shocks of death after death cultivated two dubious by-products in my adult life. First, those traumas made me strong in the Lord as each one thrust (or even flung) me at the feet of Jesus for strength, comfort and restoration. Humans were of some limited comfort during those times – I needed what only Jesus could supply. So, these turbulent seasons made me incredibly dependent on the Lord and His Holy Spirit. For this, I thank God for every trial because I now enjoy a deeply personal communion with Him that few people understand.

Secondly, losing so many people in a relatively short life worked in me a wretched and nagging desire to hold on to the few family members that remain on earth. Sure, we all want our loved ones to enjoy long lives with us, but I’m talking about something quite different. Recently, the Holy Spirit gently showed me how my desire to hold on to my loved ones can transform itself into worry, fear and doubt – all of which are direct enemies to faith. As you know, without faith, we cannot please God or expect to receive anything from Him. Faith [in Him] is the cornerstone to our relationship with Him and the key to Godly maturity. We must guard it…from our logic, our past experience and the opinions of others.

God can move in ways that simply don’t make sense to us. But, we are limited -which is why we need Him in the first place. His thoughts are so above ours and it can make trusting difficult. Difficult, but not impossible. 

 You see, when we truly trust God, we surrender everything to Him knowing that 1) He can manage it immensely better than we ever could and 2) that He has our best interest at heart and is always “up to something good” in our lives. (God bless Bishop Joseph Garlington for that quote.). The afore mentioned are immutable truths regardless of what you are currently going through and regardless of the life trial you currently face. Are you worried about anything, any one, any situation? If so, hold to these immutable facts.

So, with tears in my eyes, I repent because I admit that I have allowed worry to creep into my life as a result of my past and my fear.

I am sorry for not [one hundred percent]trusting God with my future, my family and my destiny, but I also resolve to change my position. With the Holy Spirit’s help, I resolve to re-commit all that I hold dear to the Lord and crucify worry in my life. I commend to Him my family, my ambitions, my marriage, my children, my friendships and my ministry…I surrender all today. How about you?

Read Hebrews 11:6, John 6-7.

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Her success makes me happy

My blogging friend wrote a book!  I’m so happy for her success.

Those of you who have been around GodsyGirl.Com for a while may remember frequent comments, love and support from Mangiabella.

Well, she wrote a children’s book!  I’m so thrilled for her new venture.  I could be wrong, but I think she and I started blogging around the same time.

Please check out her book (and buy it) on Amazon.Com here. Also, look for it around your part of town.  The title is “Jacq & the Moon” by Jaime Carrillo .

It’s nothing better than seeing someone you know or follow prosper. Remember, God has enough blessings for everyone, so celebrate the successes of others!  You’ll feel a bubbly excitement and joy just as I do for Jaimie!  It’s a great feeling!

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Handling news that someone’s dying

Today started so wonderfully.

After spending great fellowship with terrific people at my church, I came home and chatted with my mom. Then, I made spontaneous plans to have a fantastic lunch with my sweetie pie of a husband. The sun was shining; all was under control and life felt really good.

Then the phone rang.

Isn’t it funny how one conversation can completely turn your day upside down? Indeed this phone call was one of those. It brought the kind of bad news that feels like a punch in the belly from a monstrous prize fighter.

My neighbor advised me she was diagnosed with terminal cancer.

Even typing the words make my heart ache.

She’s such a nice older lady. She recently buried her husband as a result of this terrible disease and now she (and her family) has this fresh, painful hurdle ahead of them. Unimaginable.

I instantly sobbed as she explained details of the situation.

Want to hear something odd? Just the other day, I was thinking about how we can sometimes pray selfish prayers. I was pondering if it is appropriate to pray for healing when someone is ready to transition home. This topic just came to my mind for no apparent reason. I remember distinctly asking the Holy Spirit “Are selfish prayers ok?”

I heard no response.

About the same time, my mind went to scripture.

“Hmmm…what selfish prayers are in scripture?”

I knew there had to be lots. Surely, people would ask God for healing or specific victories for very personal reasons.

Determined to do research once I stopped the car, a few instances came instantly to my mind. For one, the Centurion who loved his servant was one. The man whose daughter died was another. Then, there was the mother whose son had passed and the prophet resurrected him. I know of many more.

Who is to say whether selfish prayers are right or wrong? I think most requests and miracles in the Bible were the result of someone’s selfish prayers. But, in His infinite wisdom, God uses those cases to show the world just how mighty He is.

Well, I have a selfish request. I’m going to ask God to keep my neighbor on this side of heaven because I love her. I want her to see her grandchildren grow. I want her children to have a respite from grief. I want to sit on the deck for our chats.

You know, during our conversation, she said something that left a permanent imprint in my spirit. If she continues to live on earth or moves to heaven, I’ll never forget it.

She said “Terri, I have peace. I believe in God and I know there is a heaven. I’m really ok”.

Her comments jarred me a bit. We don’t hear someone with a death diagnosis respond this this way.

A person with such an analysis would be more apt to pray for healing so their desires could come to pass. But, she’s convinced of heaven and a loving, adoring Savior ready to embrace her on the other side.

Her faith is inspiring. I think God is pleased with her response.

You know, it’s easy to forget heaven is a precious promise for those who love the Lord. Sometimes, we can be so earthly minded, we forget our children, friends and husbands are just placeholders in our lives. The real joy, the real paradise is with the Lord.

Also, I repeat. Heaven is a promise – not a goal. That work is done in Christ. If you relinquish your life to Him, it’s yours.

Question: Do we sometimes lose our perspective when we think of death from this life?

Either way, I’m going to pray God heals my neighbor and restores her health for His name sake. She has grandchildren I know she wants to see grow.

Whether God decides to heal her on this side of heaven or the other; He will heal and take wonderful care of my sweet neighbor and friend.

But, my selfish prayer [and thank God he said I could make it known to Him] is that she will live to see many more years in health and even some great-grandchildren one day. If this request aligns with His will, imagine the glory of her testimony! Please say a prayer for her today. Cancer is no match for God should He have work for her to do on this side.

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How to have self control

How to have self control as a Christian

Did you ever wonder: how to have self-control as a Christian“?
Or maybe you’ve Googled “how to have self-control over food:. I’ve done the latter just recently.

I’m on a weight loss journey.

It sounds cute when I say it like that. But, here is the real deal: I’m 40-something. I love Twinkies, cobbler, corn bread and cookies. I’m gaining weight. That’s the real deal.

Recently, my personal lack of discipline has been on my mind. Continue reading “How to have self control as a Christian” »

Don't miss Him!

Don’t miss Him at work in our lives

I’m thinking.

Sometimes, when I don’t spend time with God, it’s harder for me to recognize Him at work.

He works in good things, He is at work in bad things, He’s even at work in NO THINGS.  He’s God. He’s using everything in our lives for good.

But, when I don’t spend time with Him, I often miss that point. I can get caught up with what I see, feel, hear and think.  Does that happen to you too?

I figure if I’m in close fellowship with Him, I’m able to see with supernatural eyes and recognize Him more clearly. Time with Him rests my carnal perspective a little.

Check out this video and see what made me think about all this. Tell me what you think.

 

God is indeed in busy in our lives everyday and in everything.  Don’t miss Him at work in your life, GodsyGirl!